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Here’s another grump-tastic topic… being left in the dark, or left out of something.

I’m naturally human… (unnaturally I’m not sure what I would be… okay lame jokes end here.) and I like to be invited to things, and included in things.  Natural curiosity makes me wonder about stuff that I’m being left out of, and obviously, knowing that I’ve been left out of something only makes me want to know MORE about what I’m missing.

So I hate being left out of something.  I also hate being left in the dark about something.  And recently both happened all at the same time.

So… basically I normally work this one job with one of my friends.  Happens every year, happens every February.  I’m never 100% sure of the date since I don’t pay that much attention, but meh, it’s around $100.00 for the night and a pretty decent meal out of it.  In January (actually, at a new years party) I was told “Yeah it’s happening again, and I’ll need you again.”  Cool.

I’m waiting around knowing the job is supposed to come up.  I’ve told my bosses that some time in February I’ll have to leave early one day, and I’ll let them know as soon as I find out when it is so we can all figure out who’s doing what in the few hours I’ll be gone.

And I never hear about the job.  I figured okay, it’s probably been delayed or something.

Then while idly chatting… I find out it’s already happened.  And someone else got hired.

At that point I was quite filled with all sorts of angry-types of emotions.

Not at the fact that someone else was hired, I know the guy that got hired, we’re friends, he’s a great photographer and quite frankly he needs the money more than I do.  It makes sense that he was the one offered the position.  And if it was anyone else to do this job, I’m glad he got it, since at least he’s a good friend of mine.

What I ended up being angry at, was the fact that I’d been told “Yes this is happening, and yes you are hired” then… nothing.  If there had been a “Hey, this job is happening, but I’m going to hire this guy instead” I would have been perfectly fine with.  But… not being told anything at all… just doesn’t feel right.

Sort of like when you go in for a job interview, and then you don’t get the job, but no one will tell you yes or no, and just hope that you go away.  I understand that I won’t get replies from every single resume I send out.  But if I take the time to come down to your company, sit with you for 30 minutes and meet with you face to face, I do believe it would be common courtsey to at least send an e-mail to say “Sorry, we’ve gone another direction” or something similar.

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